18+ NSFW - a public place to explore my private inclinations
Rule 1: Always post the rules. Rule 2: Answer the questions the person who tagged you asked, then write another 11 new questions. Rule 3: Tag 11 people and link them in the post. Rule 4: Tell them you tagged them. Rule 5: Tell the person who tagged you that you’ve answered the questions
1. Are you single?
The short answer is: yes. The long answer is a story for another time. :)
2. How did you meet?
There is a guy I met through tumblr. We were friends for a long time before we met IRL. I ‘met’ him in person for the first time on a street corner next to Central Park. Another guy I met through a Firefly fan forum. I knew him for 1.5 years via chat, text, phone, Skype… The first time I ‘met’ him in person was at a diner along the highway on the edge of a small town near his home. It sounds much more dramatic than it really was… In college I ended up dating a guy that had been in the same social circle as me for a couple years. I knew who he was but I’d never had a conversation with him before, so I consider the night we ‘met’ to be the night we first hung out. It was late. I was drunk. I hadn’t eaten dinner… Well, I felt sick so my friends and I went out on the porch to get some air. He was sitting there with a friend. We talked for a while and at some point I ended up vomiting. (It was college! Gimme a break! LOL) Apparently he was impressed with my poise and composure while being publicly sick (no, seriously, he was) and decided he really liked me. We dated for almost a year. He was an interesting guy. :) Ok, that’s enough of that!
3. Most unusual date?
Umm… I don’t know how unusual they were, but I’ve been on plenty of memorable ones. There was the time we went to see this great local band play in a barn in the middle of NOWHERE (there were cornfields) and when we stepped outside between sets, we could see the Northern Lights. That was amazing (and the only time I’ve ever seen them). And there was the 2nd date with another guy where he took me home to meet his mother and we all sat in the living room eating dinner off of those old metal TV trays. That was weird. I have lots of stories…
4. Do you kiss on a first date?
Yes! Nothin’ wrong with that. :D
5. Ever fucked on a first date?
I’ve had a couple one-night stands (but I quickly decided they weren’t worth it and I now have a ‘no having sex with strangers’… guideline). But they weren’t ‘dates’. They were guys I met and wanted to have sex with, There was no expectation of ‘dating’ them. I’ve dated 2 men that I knew online for over a year before I met them IRL. In both cases I did have sex with them on our first ‘real date’ but I don’t think that counts. I’ve never had sex with someone on a first date, in the traditional sense.
6. Reasoning for #5
I don’t have the slightest problem with the concept of having sex with someone on a first date, if both parties are responsible and realistic about it. But I personally have found that sex with someone I have gotten to know and like is SSSOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better than sex with a relative stranger. If I just need to get off - to scratch that itch - I can do that very well all by myself. Sex is about sharing an experience (and yourself) with someone and being eager and excited to learn about them. That requires an intellectual connection on my part and that rarely develops on a single date. So sex with strangers/first dates is pointless, IMO.
7. How kinky are you?
Ugh. I hate this question. It’s impossible to answer. But I’ll try… In the tumblr community, I’m maybe about 2-3. And that’s only because there are some tumblrs (believe it or not) that get freaked out by menstrual blood, body hair, anal play, Norman Reedus in combat boots and a frilly skirt… mild stuff like that. I don’t consider myself kinky at all. I consider myself to be a woman that is open-minded and enthusiastic about sex. But compared to the general population? I have no idea. One thing that tumblr has taught me is that there are a lot of ‘regular’ people walking around with interesting private desires/preferences that they don’t express, except maybe in very specific circumstances.
8. Would you date vanilla again?
I won’t date anyone that is not as open-minded and enthusiastic about sex as I am. But I won’t date anyone with serious, hard-core kinks, either. Not because it’s bad to have hard-core kinks, but rather because I’m experienced enough to know that there are certain things that just don’t interest me and I won’t waste time/emotional energy dating someone that I’m sexually incompatible with.
9. Are you a drama lover or avoider?
Avoid! Avoid! AVOID!!!
10. How good are you with boundaries in your relationships?
I’m good. I’m very good. I’m TOO good!
11. Regrets or no regrets?
That’s a tough one. I think regrets are useless, pointless, a waste of energy. But there are some things I wish I had done differently…
So this is where I post 11 new questions to 11 of my favorite tumblrites (well, I’m going to steal some of these, actually)…
1. Why did you join tumblr?
2. What have you learned or been surprised by during your time on tumblr?
3. How/when did you tell your significant other about your tumblr? Or, if you are single, how/when do you first bring up your blog? (assuming your blog is NSFW)
4. Most unusual date?
5. What are you good at?
6. What do you suck at?
7. What are you struggling with right now?
8. What unusual/quirky things do you find (have you found) attractive in your lovers?
9. How did you know you were in love with current or previous significant others?
10. Describe a time when you discovered something new/quirky/surprising about sex.
11. What is the most important and least important sense (sight, smell, touch, hearing, taste) for you during sex?I really suck at tagging (and following directions, apparently). I want to open this up to ALL my followers! I’m very much interested in learning more about you. :) Thanks for taking time to read/respond!! -Kat